Househusband

Traditionally speaking, it is really the husband who goes out to work and provide for the family. Society accepts the fact that men are the one who brings food to the table. But in some cases, some men find it difficult to find a job or they just don't have the luck to get a stable one.  Whatever it is, some women are welcoming the idea that they are the one working for the family and having  househusbands are becoming an accepted thing in the society.

I would like to take myself as an example, I've only been married for almost four years. My husband and I used to be call center agents. I worked for international BPO centers while my husband worked in a local company accepting calls from the people about their internet problems. There was a point that we both didn't have any source of income, in short, jobless.


To make the story short, after applying to several companies including online companies, I got hired. So for more than three years now, I am the one working for the family. But don't get me wrong, I love my job, I could say that this is my dream job because I love speaking with people. I could work even if I'm 70 years old already! :)

As years go by, some of our friends actually would made fun of us, being traditional, telling us that my husband should find a job too. My parents-in-law would say to my then very smart two year old son, to tell his father that he should already find a job since we will have a baby soon. And we will all laugh because he would say no.

So how did I deal with it? Honestly, I'm fine with it. There were opportunities for him to get a job with a decent salary but I would tell him that it's perfectly fine if I'll be the one to work.
I think that if he will work, I will have to hire a baby sitter which I don't really trust when it comes to taking care of the baby as they can get violent sometimes without my knowledge.
I've seen a lot of videos on the internet about babysitters hurting the baby when the parents are not around. And I just could not afford that.

Income wise, I bring more money to the family so we just settled with it. With the help of God, it grew bigger as years go by as my online company saw my hard work and efforts.
I also bought some birds for my husband since he loves taking care of them and he is so passionate about animals, he made money out of those amazing love birds. And that is his own source of income now, he was able to multiply the birds and sell it online too.

As for my parents in law, I really talked to them,  to accept the reality that their son is not working, I explained to them that I'm totally okay with it. I don't nag him about it as I completely know that it will be very difficult for me to take care of the kids alone.

 How about you? How do you deal with the situation? If you are the wife who has a stay at home husband?
Well, I strongly believe that these kind of things need to be discussed between the two of you.
Proper communication should be present in the relationship to avoid misunderstandings in the future.
For husbands, make sure to clean the house before your wife reach home. It would make your wife feel more relaxed knowing that her husband, though jobless, but helping with the housework and looks after the kids very well. I'm lucky my husband is not  a couch potato and I can rely on him with the chores at home.

Do not mind other people saying that you're husband should work. From the start, you are aware of that already right? Why allow yourself to be pressured by people who doesn't even understand and know an inch of your situation.

It is a case to case basis sometimes, you should be practical. If you earn more than your hubby, and your intelligent analysis came out that you will save more money if he does not work or give up his job, then be settled with it. Be practical. After all, it's you who will stay in the house with your husband, it's you who will reap the benefits in that situation and not other people.

As for me, I'm so proud of my husband. I love him because he is such a wonderful father to our two kids and a smart and loving partner as well.

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